Quarter Life Crisis: Exploring the Anxiety of Losing Control Through SZA’s ‘Ctrl’ Companion


Colliding with a tree a few feet from the road is what caused the spiraling machine to cease all movement. All was frozen, still. No injuries, no fatalities. Yet, in the midst the calm madness, there was a sensation clawing beneath my skin as if to permanently bury a specific feeling within my jackhammer heartbeat.

Control could be lost. Even for a brief moment, losing control had consequences.

My first car accident started as a tickle panic, the familiar nervousness a car accelerating too quickly. Slowing down is the answer to allete the worry, slow down is what I told myself. But as my Ford Focus blitzed down the sloping hill and the tires rumbled f the road, it was too late. My first car was totaled that day―a casualty carelessness, the sacrifice exchanged for a life lesson.

I think back to the collision each time SZA’s “Supermodel” is played, the intro to her debut album, Ctrl. Before she begins to sing, her mother speaks:

Fatal is an intense description control and the concept losing it. These are words realized through experience, soaked into the bones and tattooed upon the torso. Death has no presence on SZA’s acclaimed opus―the album is too much a reflection life to explore fatality―but the powerful fear and the desire to maintain control exist as an overarching theme. SZA, as a black woman in her mid-20s, is able to examine conventional circumstances juxtaposed by the ongoing struggle to sustain a sense authority over one’s life because it has become such a big part life itself.

Listening to “The Weekend” is hearing how one man has manipulated the weekly schedules two women vying for his attention. He is dominant, the center pleasure and manager time. Though SZA’s character describes their circumstances with confidence―sure he’ll be there no later than 10:30 for a weekend love―her deeper desire for more has no influence over what has been decided. The Kendrick Lamar-assisted “Dove In the Wind” gives all sovereignty to the women, providers  pleasure, and the sacredness resting between their inner thighs. She holds the key to who enters and who doesn’t―all-powerful and unwavering to the undeserving.

During the Ctrl rollout, SZA arrived on Everyday Struggle and further explained the album's concept: “Control is a concept. You think about getting away from analog; control is an illusion, you try and force it.” M Kash, a contributing writer to Spotlightfirst, took the quote and analyzed how the album could be divided into three sections illusory control types: Mind, Ego, and Heart. She touched on how love, hate, and fear are extensions the control type foundation and how their influences manifest into how situations are handled in relationships. It’s a short but great look into the internal ramifications created by the concept and illusion control:

What will give Ctrl longevity and future significance is how its eternal theme connects with listeners who are too young to fully understand it, but who will encounter the varying degrees control later in life; listeners who are living out the lyrics in their present, and those who remember when they were praying to survive their 20s, able to look back with new appreciation for the trials that lead to growth. The theme is a universal one, not tamed by time or constrained by age.

Living out your 20s ten feels like gripping the steering wheel, attempting to stay on the intended course. You can know the direction and follow the map, but the road is filled with variables that can remove the command from your fingertips. Illusory control is internal, while there’s an external control that’s also a large part growing up and growing old. This is why Quarter Life Crisis, the sophomore album by Marietta, Georgia's Kelechi, is a great companion project to SZA’s Ctrl. Throughout Ctrl, there’s a sense crisis very specific to once you mature beyond adolescence but before you reach full adulthood. Quarter Life Crisis gives a voice to that sweet middle period, where you know the world but truly begin to meet it in the raw. This meeting tends to bring both joy and disaster, thrills and pain, uncertainty and self-assurance all at once.

We aren’t in control who we are, and who we are born to. Kelechi understands this. He doesn’t curse his Nigerian black skin, but glorifies his heritage over a sample Michael Kiwanuka’s “Black Man In A White World.” We don’t decide the world we come into, or how this world will treat us. When he raps the police on “Bang With Us” he illustrates them as gang members. The lyric “My gang can turn fitteds to snapbacks, turn truth into lies, and kids into threats / My bullets turn niggas into hashtags” brings a haunting reality what is well-known―there are people who h the ve power to control if you live or die and have done so with minimal repercussion. Videos murders have made the images black men and women being gunned down by police ficers commonplace occurrences.

Irony can be heard on the album's first song, “Flowers”: while singing “I'm going to live forever” with the backing a choir, a gunshot suddenly turns the soulful tune to silence broken only by a falling body. Immortality is the hope children, death is the truth for the adult.

Morality and how little we control the end our lives isn’t the only theme Quarter Life Crisis, though. In a similar fashion as Ctrl, the album is wide-ranging and full expansive themes told through various accounts that intertwine. Skits give QLC a linear story, one where Kelechi's phone calls and conversations with his brother, mother, and girlfriend bring familiarity to his world. He feels the pressure the weight to either chase his dream or follow a more conventional path.

One my favorite moments on the album is an awkward conversation with his mother, who is listening to her son explain why he’s dropping out college to pursue music. “You are putting your life, your faith, in the hands people,” she says once he explains how being a finalist in a contest could be his big break. It shows a shaky reluctance not to allow her influence to control his life while betting on uncertain variables not within his power to sway. All he has control over is the belief that it’ll all work out and the passion to follow it through to the end. The shadow belief is doubt, to have one is to intimately know the other.  

Ctrl and Quarter Life Crisis both serve as a reminder that I’m not alone. The anxiousness and anxiety that has become second nature are shared by many, those other swirling cars are being stopped by trees. Both albums carry a similar sense feeling young yet old, unfinished but evolving, still in search self but recognizing who I am becoming. We want control, in love and in life; our bodies and our art. Albums for the hopeless romantics and dream chasers hoping to be the masters their universes. We are in control, yet, we aren’t. 

Control is something we fight hardest for once we know the hopeless emptiness that comes with losing it. You will lose it. Maybe it will come early, maybe it will come late, but we all lose control. There are lessons awaiting in the loss.

By Yoh, aka Ford Yohcus, aka @Yoh31