Singer J. Holiday "Bed" fame has emerged on Instagram to get some things f his chest. Namely, he wants SZA, Beyoncé and Cardi B to like, stop making music about their relationship woes because it's not fair to him and other black men.
The singer went on Instagram, mad in part because there weren't enough men nominated for the 2018 Grammy Awards, or something.
“So apparently the Black men still losing to the women—I get it,” he said in an Instagram video. “No disrespect, I was raised by a woman, I have two older sisters, man, I have absolute, all respect for Black women. But with that being said, understand this, man: Black men, African-American men, men from the hood, we go through everything to make sure that who we care about are taken care .”
He calls out Cardi B, SZA, and Beyoncé specifically, and goes on to say that black men “don’t swing their] d—ks around” and “don’t do all this bulls— to be seen.” He also apparently doesn't let his daughters listen to their music.
“I got daughters, man,” he says. “Beyoncé, Cardi B, SZA—all y’all motherf—rs—stop using that f—king pain to make it OK to say some bullsh– on your record, and get nominated for a Grammy for going through some bullsh– because so have I as a Black motherf—ing man.”
So…. yeah. That's how J. Holiday is feeling about things these days, apparently.
But here's the thing: Isn't R&B and soul music built on exploring the ups and downs love and relationships? It's literally the calling card the entire genre—regardless gender. Has J. Holiday listened to Daniel Caesar, or 6lack or SiR or… virtually any black male singer lately? Crafting songs about love pains has always made for good music, so why is he only calling out women?
And as for black women receiving more Grammy love for supposedly airing their relationship grievances with black men—that's not even accurate. Black men actually received more nominations than black women in the major categories this year.
Take JAY-Z, a man who spent the bulk his most recent album airing out his personal relationship issues with his wife (who actually lost last year at the Grammys to Adele). He's up for more awards than any other artist this year, with eight. Kendrick Lamar is next, with seven nominations. Bruno Mars has six, and Childish Gambino is up for five awards, tying with SZA.
In fact, women in general only have two nominations in the major categories (other than Best New Artist). The rest the list is dominated by men.
Anyway, feel free to listen to J. Holiday's musings below if you're inclined.